One thing that may stand in the way of getting back your ex lover is having low self esteem. Know that not having much self esteem can be very unattractive to your ex. You can hurt your possibility of getting back with your ex lover if he or she associates poor self esteem with weakness. That is why it is important for you to build up your confidence before you try to reconcile with your ex. Think positively about yourself. If you start boosting your self esteem, then you can try to figure out how to get back with your ex.